SkewedCrowns

 Everybody loves good things and being the best. Shining is our ultimate goal in life, and it should not be at the cost of anyone. Sometimes we view a facade as the ultimate picture, or we simply hold on to glass as if it is a precious mineral. Diamond our award-winning jewel for years, whom everyone wants but fortune seems not to be favourable to all humankind. It's always glass diamond 99.9% of us get, thus; having an acceptable will not a perfect one. We need to change the narrative. Glass diamond is simply having something that looks original but being fake like lables (Gucci, Nike...). It is the exact imitation of the original copy. How many of you agree with me that given a range of expensive items and similar looking low cost, you would ought for the relatively cheap. What you will be thinking of is quantity not quality. As you can see, glass diamond can be by choice. Some of us live in Utopian worlds and are comfortable with the facade. The outside world exists but does not...

 My heart was heavily saddened after learning of the 35 year old South African lady who sold her daughter Joshlin Smith for only R1100.00 The sad part iis that being a biological mother to this pretty damsel, she had the gut to kidnap and sell her child to a Sangoma. What is society turning into? This is no different from murdering her own blood. How can one be so heartless to give away a precious soul for items which are vanity? I'm still in shock as to how cruel society can be for personal gain. Some kill for riches and glory, others steal to make big names and to some sacrifice equals power but, all is vanity. I agree with Shakespeare, " Out, out, brief candle! Life's but a walking shadow, a poor player, That struts and frets his hour upon the stage, And then is heard no more. It is a tale Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, Signifying nothing ." We're so caught up in today's swift that we forget tomorrow exists, how pathetic.  Just like Joshlin's...

 Back at it, talking of making impact. We're this microwave generation that likes making it to the top headlines, newsflash, glam and fame. At times we end up opting for the shooting star that announces its presence. Yes, it makes noticeable blueprints but only remain for a while & is heard no more. Choice is yours, shining star or shooting star. I'm a superstar😆 Shining stars are amazing.  They always avail themselves in a clear night sky. What make them phenomenal is their energy to shine throughout the night and still showing up the next day. People associated to these stars are reliable and they shine in and out of season, always soaring high. They are fuelled to constantly shine unlike shooting stars that sky rocket only for a moment. Such people are full of wisdom and understanding/knowledge; that is, it is difficult to tell when they are undergoing their best or worst due to their consistency in shining & how they handle situations. They always find a way aroun...

 Have you ever been in a compromising situation where you thought of neglecting your values and morals in a bid to win obstacles? Well, that which you value, validate, your morals or principles is your integrity. Integrity also entells doing good even if no one is watching.  Do you have integrity? I've learnt that leadership with lack of integrity and ethics is simply heading to a doom because such leadership skill is comprised of honesty, fairness, respect and responsibility to mention a few. Imagine, having an employee who gives false statistics; wrong or incorrect judgements/solutions/feedback can be achieved, jeopardizing business or negatively imparting an organisation. Do you apply integrity in your day to day lifestyle? Can someone rely on you? Those who lack integrity can flourish a short time and fail to remain or stay up there. Such a virtue is powerful. In order to build healthy relations, we need it. Be it home, school, work... exercise it. Gain trust through integ...

Self-discovery   There's nothing as beautiful as finding self. Over the past few months I've learnt it's absolutely okay to be vulnerable in order to gain potentiality. For unknown reasons, I've always believed to be a multi-potentialite whereas I'm courageous. Bunch of confusing jargon buh I found myself around it. Pick a boo, I see you... There's Nnessy, she's been hiding the whole time, now ready to flaunt the world. I was a mess, crown diaries can sum that up. I didn't like Identifying myself as African though I love my afro kinky. Identity crisis... I'm grateful to my friend who gave me a different perspective of Africa. I am now proudly African, though it took ages to realise that. I know you might be in denial of who you are be it looks, culture, race, the list goes on but I feel it's time to appreciate self; so much joy attached to it. I love creating trends, so not a follower, though the past few years I've been in-existent yet brea...

 Today, I was graced with an opportunity to learn about leadership frameworks. I came across trolley dilemma or utilitarianism which left me jaw dropped. As in, it is part of leadership; ain't this inhuman? Aren't leaders meant to protect us? This is for my baby SkewedCrowns💕   This is where I'm coming from, a few months back I received a certificate in relation to mental well-being and respect for all individuals despite their mental state. A stressed, depressed, mental unstable or insane human is entitled to UNHR and is free to make choices of their own and not having others decide for them. Choices of what they want to do with their lives, services, privacy,community inclusion, ways in which they want to recover and many more. Therefore; applying utilitarianism seems like violation of human rights and not validating one's life. I may not be wrong to say it's a form of discrimination because you're choosing some individuals over someone.  If God can leave the...

  Depression is real I hate to say this but it is what it is. Over the years, one thing I've observed is that we're fine until our mindset functionality is disrupted. Let's take it lowly like a kid learning how to ride a bike. We  all have values or things we believe in and push to aim for, right? Such interests give us joy when fulfilled but what happens if the opposite is true? I noticed that when our values/interests are questioned, not met, aren't in-line with our imagination or are about to die, maybe loss... we tend to fret and psychologically get disturbed. Such tendencies lead to stress. When stress prolongs, depression is the aftermath. We always believe depression is for the weak, un-monied individuals or those lacking ABC... well I'm sorry to disappoint you, depression is the state of the mind. If you cannot handle your mental well-being, you are be a potential victim. Let the inner man scream on the outside, that way you can be assisted if need be. Tired...

 Chasing something is enough evidence of wanting something that isn't within your reach. If it was near, you'd get a grab.  I was watching a clip on IG of Will Smith talking about achieving all his dreams and reaching the 'cliff-top' nearly the same as reaching one's rock-bottom. The first thing that triggered my mind is 'achieving all you want' not being a deal breaker, how? As I pondered, this statement was dropped in my spirit, "you cannot chase what you have." One thing that kept ringing in my heard is the catching of ... that being sought for is equivalent to you starting a different chase which equals restless.  In the Bible, it is clearly stated that .... Jesus leaves the 99 sheep in search of one. He has the 99 therefore, He chases/searches the one missing. We're lacking aspects in our lives no wonder we're there running about in search of money, fame, prosperity... you name it all. Allow me say we're restless and peace seems fa...

 Patience, a name I would have given myself, maybe when called, I will reminded to exercise it, hahaha, lol. Well, I love Nnessy too, nice choice mommy and daddy.  Patience, the hardest thing to execute since no one is willing to wait. I plant today, I want harvest tomorrow; I put food in a cooker, the next minute I want to plate it up; I invest money, the next nano-second I wish to book a vacation or buy commodities with my savings/investment... the list goes on. Such is our ordeal, no wonder people indulge in crime and disgusting acts only to accelerate what they want.  No one has time to wait for anything. We're this microwave generation expecting things to occur in a nanosecond. It's a pity we've eliminated the word patience from our dictionary and vocabulary. One exercising it, deem fit being categorised as stupid. What then is this patience?   ~Nnessy🩷 Oxford dictionary defines it as the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, problems, or suffering without bec...

 The Book of Wisdom speaks of people perishing because of lack of knowledge and the world says knowledge is power, allow me  to agree with the two. Truly, it is a powerful asset one ought to have. From my My Pen Journey series, I clearly stated how much I hated reading and words in particular except for my darling Shakespearean content. I was direct on my love for Math and numbers.  Truth be told, I have shun myself from issues I despite and avoided research on what I hated/had fear of failure to. After years of school, I decided to revive my coding skills which was fun and hectic but overally an adventure I would embark on countless times. Fast forward, I pushed for embedded electronics, well, an amazing journey too. Health and nutrition, my passion where as some issues gives me that urgh reaction (storyf or another day). You cannot run forever,  To cut the long tale short, there has been a void in me seeking solace yet it remined an unheard of voice for I couldn't ...

 Loss or gain, appreciation or rejection, ahead or behind, sowing or reaping... you ought to be at peace with self at all times. Never allow circumstances ruin your peace. Be at guard at what's most precious to you. With the absence of inner peace you're just but a walking dead. Oh peace, where are you? Back and forth, I travelled In search of the mysterious peace, The hallway looked deserted and empty, Spider webs everywhere, Creepy insects on the wall, I swear, one can conclude No one resides there Am I at the right spot,  Has peace grown to live  In such a ugly place, Phew! Could she be an answer to my questions and situation? Is peace what I truly need? Can I rely on her? Peace, Peace..., Peace... Over here..., a voice is heard  There lies peace, in blankies Daylight hours, Overweight and still adding glycogen, What must have happened? No one cares to have me around, They have all abandoned me, I stay here waiting for my last breath, The world is prospering witho...

 There I was sitting outside and observing my surrounding, paying attention to details. I got caught in a Tiktok video played which sounded like one either trying to prove a point or answer to something, pretty much like defense. First and foremost, no one owes anyone an explanation or justification of what they do; so, why war? I took it upon myself to meditate on this only to realise that the world lacks peace in general.  Envy, jealous, crime, strife, anger, wars & fights, violence, evil acts, malice... are a result of lack of peace. The place of forgiveness is made worthwhile in the presence of peace. Without peace you hold grudges and bitterness dominates. Anything bad done by people is a result of lack of peace, meaning absence of peace = absence of harmony/unity. Some hospitals are filled with patience who are suffering from peace deficiency. Health loss, hoarding of ..., hustling and many more are peace lack issues. Literally, everything is connected to peace. What...

 In the past few weeks I heard of many cases of the African child's health being affected, Zimbabwe in particular.  Many children suffered from rash/itchiness, sugars, ulcers...(according to hospital statistics) and WHO reported on cancer found in children and its symptoms. This is just way too much to take in as I believe these youngsters deserve a healthy lifestyle, free from pain and illness. I always advocate for healthy meals. Junk and fast foods are not bad considering they are taken once in a while or after having a healthy meal as the body would have acquired the needed nutrients from the main meal and more of the junk will be taken in straight to excretion. According to my mini research/analysis I believe there is a batch of junk foods that was not manufactured properly, needing to be dispatched but the owner decided to avoid loss by damaging the health of clients. Get me right, this is not an optimum but my opinion. All the same, let's normalize fruit, vegetables, gr...

Looking at yourself, where you are and where you're heading, it may seem impossible to scale through. Sometimes navigating your way around the situation alone seems impossible. All you need doing is simply move. You're unstoppable.  You are stuck due to background, laziness, socio-economic factors, mentality or perhaps other factors. These issues weigh you down, probably to your rock-bottom, making you see no chance to rise again. Remember you're unstoppable!!! I believe failure is the inability to execute. Being involved in something always yield results. Soar high... Procrastination is the key factor to stagnancy. End futile planning and pursue execution. Execute, fail, proceed, learn from mistakes, succeed. Action is a primary factor to both growth and success. Thought ideas need to be made into a reality You're your number one obstacle to your journey, success or growth. You're the driver of your life, you know where you are heading. People's noises and dis...

  Secrets to a happy marriage  After the wedding bliss of sharing the I do moment and of course not I do not LOL. What of focusing on the I do not which will be left unpacked. Marriage still remains a mystery one has to venture into and explore, all the same grasp valuable lessons. I am fortunate enough to have had a one on one session on marriage and keys to unlocking its blessings, which I'm here to share with the world.  The book of wisdom says, "He who finds a good wife findeth a good thing and obtains favour from God." Mind you, the one who finds is man and he who favours is God. In order to acquire the fullness of God's favour you ought to honour your spouse. Husband your wife and wife your husband. That way you can enjoy the marriage bliss. I was watching an instagram video the other day and something caught my attention as it was said you have to communicate with your spouse the energy level, zeal or frustration you have so that he/she may cover you. If you go...

 I bet we're all aware of the Santa's naughty kids list which no one wants to be a part of. Well, Christmas time is here again, sha-la-la-la-la-la, Christmas carols everywhere. Love sharing moments order of the day. This season, I'm interested in shading light on the virtues/characteristics one ought to possess. Allow me introduce you to my magical threes.   Character, Attitude, Respect.  I believe we always sing about ubuntu yet we've limited knowledge on it. I have discovered that we've grown to be selfish arrogant individuals, which in my world is pathetic. Let's help build one another and have our world colourful once again. Let's radiate love, joy, peace and make it our daily lifestyle.  Since Christmas is about sharing gifts, love and feasting, why not work on self to maintain positive relationships. Allow me disect each of the above mentioned virtues: Character : merely how you conduct yourself. How you treat other people matters a lot. Imagine havin...

 I vividly recall letting go my job for reasons not to be shared on this platform at the moment and pursuing entrepreneurship and personal goals. The journey was amazing till I reached a stumbling block, well; the jovial moment lasted months. I remember very well it was somehere in May this year as I was in need of certain things  (career related) and my perception changed towards everything. Where I was, where I was heading, my goals snd aspirations, all changed. What I needed was a job/finances to scale through to the next level. It was more like a maze/puzzle that life tossed me into, in hope that I would dance to the mysteries as I solve the predicament. It felt as if mother earth had trusted me with the gift of life and its occurences. The most beautiful thing ever, no word can describe. Lo and behold, I was fortunate enough to work. I won't lie at first I lost direction towards the goal and had no focus. I diverted a bit from my primary goals and pushed that which wasn't...

 Have you been to a prison? Either being convicted or visiting a prisoner? One thing we can all agree to is that these individuals got no freedom to choice of food, clothes, activities or merely doing things to self-will. Such becomes our ordeal, slave/prisoner to self, lost and addressed according to prison uniform. All glamour will be a thing of the past as in cells people don't wear jewellery. Basically what sums you up on the outside will be a myth. In my opinion it's better to be a slave/imprisoned in the physical and not in the mind Lost identity = absence of particulars = loss of rights amounting to alienated beings. So many zombies out there living by instructions from the officers. In this case officers can be internal/external factors; people, mindset, economic situations, fear... As a prisoner you got no right to air out your voice so at times you adjust to the situation.  The sad reality is that the victims aren't aware of this,  they are controlled by other p...

 Education has grown to be an interesting topic of all times . It is part of the UN SDG and concern for every society. What may vary is the content taught and shared though it has to be of  a quality. Education can be delivered in a classroom, online, in-person or through reading and how it's perceived and taken in determines its quality. To think of it, literally everything requires education.   When we think education, our imagination takes us through the four corners of a learning area (classroom); whereas education is the "knowledge acquired through learning or instruction" (WordWeb dictionary). What makes it quality is the way it is delivered.    If we can agree that everyone has the potential to succeed and master concepts, that's a step to quality education.  This requires patience from the educators and a positive learning attitude from the pupils. Simplifying concepts by breaking them into iterations/sizable segments which are easier to take in, ap...

Yeah right, an apple a day keeps the doc away what of a good looking slice of papaya? I bet we can all agree that fruit, its fibre and nutritional content is enough to take you milestones health-wise. Today, I've decided to learn from our precious papaya aka pawpaw fruit.   Photo taken from: Whttps://www.quora.com/What-are-the-benefits-of-a-papaya-plant The colour itself does me good. I love its orange edible part and its black and white seed. The amazing part is that the seeds are easy to remove unlike watermelon seed. Just like the pawpaw fruit, it should be easy for one to get rid of harzadous habits or in-takes alongside poisonous traits. Get rid of what lowers your chances of survival. Toxic traits should be trashed into the bin and one should focus on positivity. Life is too precious to terminate with things within your control. Pawpaw fruit is tender and fragile and it needs to be meticulously taken care of. If dropped it can break. Such is life, we are fragile like a papaya...